Problematics of the Gay Female Gaze

This discussion was set in motion by the arrival of this copy of Esquire on my doormat.

My initial response, like any good lady gay, was FNARGH THIS IS BEAUTIFUL, but this soon developed into a deeper consideration of how a photo of a naked woman on the front cover of a men’s magazine may be problematic.

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A Discussion of Urban Outfitters and the Sweet Lady Kiss

Ordinarily, photos of sweet lady kisses would send me into paroxysms of  joy, and straight to Twitter to express this, however, this particular one has set me to thinking. For Urban Outfitters does not have a sterling record when it comes to supporting gay rights; a t-shirt stating ‘I Support Same-Sex Marriage’ was pulled from their shelves in the US in late-2008, and its CEO, Richard Hayne has donated thousands of dollars to anti-gay Republican politicians, namely the charmingly homophobic Rick Santorum. Moreover, the company has faced accusations of racial stereotyping, copyright violation and plagiarism. This shady background is at odds with the young, alternative, independent, seemingly liberal clientèle and staff of the company, yet they continue to shop and work there, in spite of the fact that Urban Outfitters sell an image of themselves which is completely at odds with the reality.

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Dear Brothers and Sisters (and anyone who isn’t defined by this gender binary) in humanity

I wrote this in response to an open letter by two Catholic Archbishops, which was intended to be read out to all Catholic parishioners yesterday, urging them to refuse the Coalition Government’s plans for marriage equality.


Dear Brothers and Sisters (and anyone who isn’t defined by this gender binary) in humanity,

This week the Coalition Government is expected to present its consultation paper in the proposed change in the legal definition of marriage so as to open the institution of marriage to same gender partnerships.

Today I want to put before you the fair and balanced vision of marriage and the light it casts on the importance of marriage for our society.

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How to make the end of a day’s temping awkward

Conversation at the end of the day…

Guy – so what would you say if I asked you out for a drink next week?

Me – uuummm… *shiiit*

Guy – you can say no if you want…

Me – it’s going to be a no…


Me – mainly cos I’m not really into guys.

Guy – oh ok, I thought you were!

Me – *urrrr no!* ok then, see you… Byeeee!
ARE YOU SERIOUS? Topics covered today include how I wrote my MA dissertation on Queer French cinema, how I don’t meet many younger people (not guys) for me to go out with in my village, how I’m reading a gay book by Alan Hollinghurst, how the most recent films I watched include Priscilla Queen of the Desert and Jarman’s Blue. I’m also wearing a WAD ribbon and a rainbow bracelet.

How can’t he tell that he’s “not really my type?!” Do I have to write “gay” on my forehead? Way to make it awkward dude. Grr.